How I'm Skirting the Rules

I’m Showing Women Why Who You Surround Yourself With Matters

Linnette Reindel, author of The Art of Keeping Good Company, went from a safe job in corporate America to becoming an author, speaker and business consultant who is inspiring women to pay close attention to their inner circles in order to be more successful.

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Linnette Reindel went from working for corporate America to becoming an inspirational speaker to thousands of men and women with the message that who you surround yourself with helps determine your success.

At 22 years old, Linnette Reindel, the author of The Art of Keeping Good Company and executive business consultant at Linnette Reindel & Company, found herself raising her baby boy on her own. She wondered if she’d be able to be successful both as a mom and as a business woman. Now more than 20 years later, she raised a thoughtful man who is now a successful business owner; became an accomplished senior sales and marketing executive; and, most recently, served as a speaker to thousands of men and women about the power behind the company you keep; a lesson she learned early on and one she credits to her successIt was her Italian-American mother who first told her each night around the family dinner table, “You are the company you keep.” Linnette believes that women who thrive instead of merely survive understand the power of choosing uplifting people to do business with, work for, and live with. Linnette shared with  Skirting the Rules why truly knowing who you are makes it easier to attract the people in your life who will help you grow, and who you can elevate in return.

 I’m Skirting the Rules by refusing to make money the principal driver that would define my career success and surrounding myself with the right people who have like-minded values. There were many times when I was presented with what appeared to be great opportunities, but didn’t align with what I valued: integrity, self-respect, and contribution. Living authentically, I simultaneously raised a well-adjusted, talented son while cultivating a highly-successful career. Now today, I am embracing my life’s purpose of inspiring women to reach their potential by fully recognizing the value of keeping good company and letting go of what they may have outgrown, adjusting their chair space, and to reach for what they truly desire in life.

A time when I found the possible within the impossible was raising a healthy, confident, grateful human at 22 years old. Against all odds, I set out on a course to raise my son, which I knew could only be accomplished by taking it one day at a time.

An example of how listening to my intuition has helped me was during a job interview for what would have been a very sought-after title and salary, I quickly felt a disconnect to the company culture. My inner knowing told me that I would not be sitting with the right people who valued a give-and-get environment. I knew this environment would impede my growth and not allow me to contribute to the organization in a meaningful way. Against what most people encouraged me to do, I trusted and listened to my intuition and core values, and choose to not take the job. In return, the decision opened new doors that would later serve me well.

Saying “no, thank you” provided me an opportunity to reflect on what it was I was willing to say yes to. The only yes I could truly feel good about was “yes to me.” I had no idea that saying no at the time would truly allow me to finally explore what it was I wanted to do. I knew it had to be meaningful and that I had to feel good about those I was sitting with. I spent many years in corporate America, it was all I knew, saying no to that company so I thought would allow me to say yes to another, however the only yes to come was to myself.

My secret talent is adaptation and my ability to thrive in any given situation. I learned the skill as a single mother: I had to adapt to what my son needed, and I had to be open to cities and states (and there were many) where there was work that would allow me to continue to grow. I knew adapting was the skill that would ensure I did not get passed by. Adapting to the ever-changing marketplace, to new required skills as well as to what was cool (in my sons eyes) would keep me current and marketable.

A woman is most powerful when she knows her worth, embraces her values, and aligns with other like-minded people.

What I wish I had told myself when I was starting out is to always embrace your value and trust yourself as you make decisions about which doors to open, which ones to step through, and which ones to walk away from. If you find yourself in a situation where you are giving and getting little in return, then move your chair. Don’t just sit and hope that you will teach people how to behave or wait to be recognized for your contributions. In the meantime, strive to lead a balanced life while being open to new experiences. Think of these as essential steps to creating the life you desire. Enjoy your journey.

My favorite skirt is to follow the motto, “when you choose to sit with the right people, all your desires can be yours.”

For example, when I wanted to write my book, I surrounded myself with women and men, who had written a book(s) and who were writers, and who had insight into publishing, self publishing, etc.

Today my inner circle includes women who have left corporate positions and/or are considering next steps in their careers. I met these women from networking and joining women’s organizations that support these initiatives and desires. There are five key women within my circle who seek to explore new options, determine next steps, to seek support and guidance, share what they know to be true and solicit the same in return. This inner circle becomes a place to check myself, grow, learn and to affirm in them what I know to be true.